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How's Your Communication Skills?

My family has an interesting communication style. We just stop talking. My grandfather and his brother stopped talking for 25 years because of a card game. My father just stopped talking to me for weeks at a time and I would have to guess why.  It ended up being years before we spoke again, when he was dying.

Sometimes it takes distance to see what’s in front of your face.

In college, after taking my core classes, I had no idea what I wanted to do when I grew up besides get out of my house. So a guidance counselor at the college said to take five random classes I liked. It seemed silly. I wanted to graduate college and get on with my life but I had no passion for anything.

I took a class in television and loved it. My class project was on yellow journalism (exaggeration of news events, sensationalism, or exploitation and scandal). From then on I majored in Communications and graduated with a Bachelor of Arts.

To many that degree is considered weak or an easy major. For years I questioned myself if I took the easy way out. I didn’t pursue computer programming, or law or medicine.

But a few of my classes were in interpersonal communications and I realize today it is a passion of mine.

Communicating with others is a skill. Most people either bully to get their point across, hide from confrontation, or just ignore others out of frustration.

I have done all three of those for many years. I have also studied books on communication as well as other people to hone my communication skills.  Yes, I am still honing. 

But once in a while I will have the courage to speak up in a loving way to say I don’t agree, did I hear you wrong, or I choose my relationship over being right.

Several times this week I had the opportunity and the courage to say how I felt. Every single time it went much better than I planned.

The other part of commuication is reading your audience. If they are struggling with some illness or battling something, they aren’t always in a place to hear you.

But you choose your moments, take a deep breath, and offer your heart.  Sounds terrifying to some. But I lost years with my father because  he wasn’t able to communicate effectively. I am grateful for the lesson of pursuing better communication no matter how poorly I have done it in the past.

Have you heard of the communication sandwich? Say something you admire about someone, discuss what you are struggling with, and end on a high note? Seems a better alternative than fighting, bullying, or avoiding others. Not always easy. Lots of grace and mercy needed but worth it in the end - most of the time, I think. Well there is always that one. LOL

OPINIONS

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